Building a healthy relationship depends much about the chemistry you share with your partner. Here are few questions that will help you test your compatibility with your partner.
“It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a companion for him who corresponds to him.” Genesis 2:18 of the Bible quotes God as saying so. This reflects enough about the significance of this man-woman relationship since creation.
Marriage is a remarkable and joyous procession in one’s life. However, what is going to come around is somewhat unpredictable and uncertain even if you have known your partner for a long time. After marriage, life takes a new turn. Once the rocking honeymoon is over, it’s time to settle down into the relationship. It’s the time for making adjustments, tuning your likes and dislikes to accommodate your partner’s likes and dislikes and understanding the family’s perspective.
The promises you made before marriage need to be met. From shaping your career to setting up your home, from having kids to managing the finances – everything needs a proper consensus, planning and budgeting so that you are able to build your life together beautifully.
Here are a few things you must settle before your tie the knot.
A. Is your love real or just infatuation?
Do you love your partner for what he/she is or do you want your partner to adapt to you? This question needs to be asked before you get into a serious relationship and begin thinking of a life together. This decides the strength of your bonding. Imagination and self-introspection will work here. Be very honest to yourself while you answer these questions. You will never regret your decision.
B. Why do you wish to go with me on life’s journey?
Ask your partner why he/she has chosen you. This will give you a clear picture of his/her personality traits. You will know from the answers whether they are honest or soaked in hyperbolic compliments.
You also get a sneak peek into the expectations your partner has from you. Visualize the responses of your partner against good, not-so-good and traumatic situations that might surface in life.
C. How important is my professional success to you?
Many a time, it has been found that professional success of one partner becomes a bone of contention between the couple. Discuss this with your partner to understand his or her perspective. He or she should not use the principle of gender equality as rhetoric; rather it should be imbibed in the personality and get manifested in one’s practical behavior.
Notice how your partner reacts or responds to your professional success or what you yourself feel about your partner’s achievements. These behavioral traits are straws in the wind that will help you understand your partner better.
Each partner should give due space to the other’s expectation and freedom. Marriage should become the wellspring of greater success, the foundation of growth.
D. How much are you ready to lose yourself?
Marriage is not always a bed of roses. There is a mundane part to it as well. Household chores and responsibilities might sometimes create conflict in the relationship. It’s important to know how much patience and tolerance your partner has.
In a relationship, it’s not important that how strongly you prove yourself to win the battle. It’s more about how you make your partner feel. Let go of a few interests if it helps to create a peaceful and loving relationship. After all, one cannot have everything one wishes for.
E. How important are my parents to you?
Parents are our living God and they have given the best time of their life to us. They deserve the best treatment even after you get married. Find out how your would-be life-partner looks upon the responsibilities towards parents. Marriage shouldn’t distance you from your parents.
F. How do you see us 10 years from now?
Now this may sound like a routine job interview question, but it’s explicitly essential to know the answer before you get married. The response will reveal the roadmap and goals of the relationship. This will also help you understand how your would-be partner will behave if the relationship gets stuck in a not-so-happy situation.
How you build your marriage and cement your relationship depends on how well the two partners are able to understand each other. What you don’t know about each other can hurt your relationship. Overcome shyness, lack of interest and ask each other the difficult questions. A better mutual understanding from the beginning will help you cement the foundation for a stable marriage.
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